It’s been almost 17 years that I haven’t seen my father. I miss him a lot because of many reasons.
When we lose someone, we irreversibly lose these 5 things :
1. Your Back – You feel as if your back isn’t there. Whatever you are doing at whatever stage of life you might be—child, teenager, student, single, married, parent, grandparent—you always have those 2-3 closed persons in your family who are your back at all times, you can go to them whenever and they will do all they can for you. One of those supports is lost when you lose someone close to you.
2. Their Love – You were being loved by them in a way that is unconditional and you always felt cared for when they were around. You miss that care and love for obvious reasons.
It’s said, you can forget what someone did for you, but you can’t forget how they made you feel.
3. Their Support – There are few people in our lives who support us unconditionally, in our rights and wrongs.
When you look at them, without any words, they say “Main hoon na” And you know they will be there for you no matter what.
4. One wheel of the family – My father used to say, it’s only the close family members—spouse, parents and the kids—who will actually feel your loss after you are gone. Others will come and mourn momentarily but these are the ones who are silently mourning the loss of loved one all the time.
Things are really not the same after losing a loved one. You get up in the morning and reality strikes, in the evening, your eyes keep on waiting for the loved one to return from work and then again reality strikes that they will not return.
5. Their presence – Their presence around you is always missed – be it some celebration in the family or mourning.
You would always think – “woh hote to aaj sab kuch kitna different hota” You miss their warmth, love, care, special moments, how they made you feel and so much more.
Such is life, you can’t change a few things. We should not take our loved ones for granted, live life fully and spend time with them when they are around.
Ask yourself daily “What if things changed tonight, what if someone you love is not around anymore, what if you are not around your loved ones”
Always treat your loved ones in a special way and keep them close to your hearts. Love them, respect them and create memories when they are already around.
About the author: Gurleen Kaur Tikku is a Certified Financial Planner and devotes her time to her company www.hareepatti.com. She has done her Bachelors in Finance and Investment Analysis(BFIA) from College of Business Studies(CBS, Delhi) and MBA from IMT, Ghaziabad. She can be Contacted at [email protected]